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When we rush a solution, almost nothing in us has time to change. We register the result, but we don’t create new ways of thinking. The neural connections that could become the basis of future understanding don’t form. It is like closing a task without living through it. It is solved on the outside, but not assimilated within.

Thinking doesn’t happen in a hurry. It switches on where we stay with a question, one on one. Where not everything is clear or linear, where we have to go back, doubt, pause. In such moments new connections begin to sprout – between ideas, feelings, bodily sensations. Between past experience and the task at hand. This is literally a physical process: the brain reorganizes itself when we try to make sense of something.

We can picture it as a garden. An inner garden that needs not so much a solution as attention. This garden doesn’t respond to deadlines and doesn’t speed up under pressure. It asks for a different attitude – not hasty consumption but warm care. The role of a critic or a fault-finding overseer is out of place here, it makes no sense. Flowers don’t grow faster because you shout at them. What is needed is a loving figure who knows how to care. Something like an old gardener: he doesn’t expect a reward, doesn’t hurry the growth – he simply tends. With respect for rhythms, for the season, for the character of the soil.

If we allow ourselves to be inefficient in a certain sense, if we let the task stay with us and don’t close it at once, we give something new the chance to grow. It isn’t always visible from outside. But inside, depth appears, clarity, the ability to be with what is complex. In this way we live our own life much more deeply.

There is no need to hurry. Sometimes the best way to grow is to stay, to look closely, to wait. Not for the sake of a result, but for the sake of the process itself.